ang USOK ng lipunan sa likod ng kahirapan..

aking namataan ang isang batang ito na kay ligayang pahithit-buga sa kanyang hawak na istik.

Ano? sino? bakit? paano? ilan lang ito sa mga katanungang bumabalot sa aking isipan kung ano nga ba ang dahilan ng karamihang kabataang nalululong sa mga bisyo? maaari bang problema sa pamilya? sa pera? pagkain? gamot? walang laruan? walang mapaglibangan? nalulungkot? nalulumbay? o sadyang masaya lang sila sa kanilang napupusuang gawain?. Sino ba ang dahilan? kanila bang mga magulang na nagpabaya? kaibigan na umanyaya? o udyok ng sarili sa mga nakikita?. Bakit nila ito ginagawa? dahil sa karaniwan ng nakagawian? hanap ng katawa? at paano nga ba nila ito mapipigilan?

.. ang huling katanungan ay sadya lamang na kayhirap sagutin pagkat ang tangi lamang makakalunas ay ang mismong tao na gumagawa nito o mga taong malapit sa kanila.




Nakalulugmok..


                                                                      Nakasusuray..









                           Ako'y Nalungkot..







pagkat ito na ang kabataan ngayon sa bagong henerasyon.




Noong matandang panahon, ang mga kabataan ay kaysiya-siyang matutuhan ang mga bagong letra, mga numerong mala ginto sa mata at mga bagay na nais nilang makita. Mga ngiti nilang nangungusap na kuntento na sa mga bagay na nais nilang makuha. Ang panahon kung saan ang mga kabataan ay walang mga muwang. Ngunit ngayon, dumating ang bagong siglo kasabay ang bagong henerasyon ng mga kabataan!

Kahirapan! kahirapan ang pangunahing dinadaing ng mga tao kaya't natutukso sa mga gawing liko-liko. Nagnakaw pagkat walang makain, nagrurugby sa paraang mapalipas ang gutom, lumayas sa tahanan pagkat       ayaw makaragdag palamunin sa pamilya, tumigil sa pag-aaral at mas pinili ang barkada at kung minsan natututo na sila kung paano pumatay!! di bat' kalugmok-lugmok ang kanilang sinasapit?
Hindi nila kasalanang mabuhay sa mundo, hindi nila kasalang mamulat sa kapaligiran, kung ang mga dahilan rin naman ay ang mga taong kanilang pinagkakatiwalaan ay siya rin namang maguudyok sa kanila sa ganitong bagay.

Matuto ka paring magpasalamat kung saan ka nagmula. Hindi dahilan ang karumihan at kasalanan sa mundo upang malugmok sa mga masasamang bisyo.

Darating man ang problema, kasawian, kapighatian at anumang pighati huwag mong kakalimutang ito'y iyong paslamatan pagkat hindi ito sayo ipagkakaloob kung hindi ka pinagkakatiwalaan ng nasa itaas na iyo itong makakaya.

                                 Masaya maging bata! Dahil minsan ka lang maging bata :))

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COFFEELICIOUS...

“Black as the devil, hot as hell, pure as an angel, sweet as love.” That’s the recipe for coffee, according to the utterly French statesman Talleyrand (1754-1838).

Across the Channel the British took a more, well, British approach to coffee cookery: Seventeenth-century diarist Samuel Pepys wrote of Londoners larding their coffee with butter, mustard, oatmeal, and ale.

I normally do not drink coffee that much except if I have to get up early and I need some beverage to perk up my day. There are varieties right now in the market that makes coffee more appealing. There are flavored coffees nowadays like the ones that are infused with hazelnut or french vanilla flavors. Others retain the conventional taste but they have been slightly modified. And there are those which are in “light calorie” variety that also appeals to figure-conscious people. One of the variety that has been so promising is the “brown sugar” variety which uses brown sugar rather than the conventional white sugar. One of the great things about this is the fact that brown sugar contains more nutrients because it is less refined. Thus, it adds nutritional benefits to coffeeas a well-known antioxidants.

Kopiko is a company from Southeast Asia. It made a big splash when it created candies made from coffee. It was a quick remedy for people who want to have a doze of coffee but have no time to make one. Right now, they have manufactured instant coffee. I was so drawn to their brown sugar variety.

Given that it used brown sugar, I was keen on the sweetness and taste. When you use brown sugar, it makes the sweetness a little odd but this was a good mix. I love the sweetness that they have created here. It was not too sweet nor too different from the conventional mix. There is that precise sweetness in the drink. I enjoyed it.

Another thing perfect about this coffee is the smell. There is no added smell that was mixed to this coffee but it smells like caramel. It was very inviting and addicting. Every sip gives you that rich and full aroma of delicious coffee. I think it matters having a great smell because it makes your experience with it great. In my case, I am addicted drinking this because of the smell. Not to mention the taste.

Some interesting coffee facts

  

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 Coffee Trivia

• When shopping for perfume, take some coffee with you in your bag and have a good sniff in between smelling each perfume to refresh your nose!
• Sprinkle spent coffee grounds around the base of your garden plants and it will stop snails and slugs from munching them!
• A mixture of coffee grounds and sugar, fed to a pot plant and watered regularly, will revive houseplants that have turned yellow in winter.
• Some of the worlds most powerful business, including Lloyds of London and the New York Stock Exchange, started life as a coffee houses.
• Vincent Van Gogh was a big frequenter of the café society and famously said “I have tried to show the café as a place where one can go mad.”

• Revolutions have been planned in coffee houses, namely the French and the American Revolutions.
• At the end of the 16th century records show there were at least 500 cafes in Istanbul alone. The first European cafes were opened by immigrants from Asia around 1650.
• A coffee tree has a lifespan of about 50 to 70 years.
• The coffee cherries turn from yellow to orange and then bright red, 6 - 8 months after flowering.
• When it is in bloom, the coffee tree is covered with 30,000 white flowers which begin to develop into fruit after 24 - 36 hours.
• A coffee tree can flower eight times in any one year - depending on rainfall.
• There are 900 different flavours of arabica. Complex and very volatile, they deteriorate if exposed to air and light.
• The aromas in coffee develop at the 10th minute of roasting.
• Coffee increases in volume during roasting by 18.60%.

 Coffee is...

• The second most widely used product in the world after oil.
• It was worth 6 million tonnes per year in the mid 90's.
• It is a living to more than 100 million people.
• It is consumed at the rate of 1400 million cups per day.
• The world's second most popular drink after water.

 Where did the word 'coffee' originate?

Kaffa? A province in Ethiopia where it was first discovered.
Kaaba? The holy building in Mecca.
Kavus Kai? A Persian king who was able to defy gravity and levitate by drinking coffee.
Kahwe? Meaning roasted in Turkish.
Cahouah? A hunger curing drink in Arabic.
Cohuet? Meaning strength or vigour in Arabic.

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Till Life do us Together

Had it been started right...
key to a blessed marriage

There is only one key to successful marriage- start it right !

When people accord marriage all it's due respect and honor, God rewards them. The bible pictures a blessed marriage: "Blessings on all who reverence  and trust the Lord-on all who obey him! Their reward shall be prosperity and happiness. Your wife should be contented in your home. And look at all those children! There they sit around the dinner table as vigorous and healthy as young olive trees. That is God's reward to those who reverence and trust him" (Ps.128:1-4,LB).

Moreover, the Bible teaches that the blessed marriage is one with the head of a family who loves; is not harsh with her and who is responsible father and good provider. In return he finds a good wife  who is given by the Lord , loves him and his children  and respect him , and is submissive to him . Their children, on the other hand, are obedient and respectful , are a joy to them . Indeed a blessed marriage builds a family that stands firm, amidst all trials and is untouched by troubles.

However happy you are before the ceremony, there's something about getting married that can rock the boat. Most couples wobble on honeymoon. Many find that once back home, things aren't going as well as they did before the ceremony. A staggering one in two marriages are also set to fail.

So whether you're a blushing bride or forty years down the road, how can you make your marriage work? The answer is to look at what effective couples do and apply their secrets to your relationship.

Successful Married Couples get their deal straight 
Marriage is different from living together. It's not necessarily better, but it's different. Both of you will have different expectations of a 'spouse' than of a 'partner' - often basing those expectations on what you saw of your parents' married life. For example, you may have been happy for your man to live the student life before the wedding, but afterwards, you expect him to draw a regular salary.

Successful couples talk deeply before the wedding about their expectations of each other, and if there's serious disagreement - for example he wants kids, she doesn't - they think seriously about whether to marry. After the wedding, successful couples also talk regularly to check their expectations of married life. If those expectations clash, they keep communicating until they have understanding and agreement.

Successful Married Couples keep their individuality
However independent you were before, marriage has a habit of sucking you in to being a couple.

Particularly if the marriage involves children, your lives are increasingly tied up together day-to-day. The result is often feeling both dependent and depended on - as though you have someone constantly clinging to your ankles.

Successful couples know that, however much love there is, marriage can bring this trapped feeling. They encourage each other not to be always 'us', to take 'me' time, to have 'me' hobbies and even 'me' friends. This way, each partner brings individuality in to the marriage, keeping it fresh and alive.

“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” – Barnett R. Brickner

Wise couples realize that a nice home, car, or retirement account may appear nice to have, but they do not make a successful marriage. They understand that there are far more important principles at play. As a result, they have learned to invest their money, energy, and time into the 8 essentials of a healthy marriage:

1. Love/Commitment. At its core, love is a decision to be committed to another person. It is far more than a fleeting emotion as portrayed on television, the big screen, and romance novels. Feelings come and go, but a true decision to be committed lasts forever – and that is what defines true love. It is a decision to be committed through the ups and the downs, the good and the bad. When things are going well, commitment is easy. But true love is displayed by remaining committed even through the trials of life.

2. Sexual Faithfulness. Sexual faithfulness in marriage includes more than just our bodies. It also includes our eyes, mind, heart, and soul. When we devote our minds to sexual fantasies about another person, we sacrifice sexual faithfulness to our spouse. When we offer moments of emotional intimacies to another, we sacrifice sexual faithfulness to our spouse. Guard your sexuality daily and devote it entirely to your spouse. Sexual faithfulness requires self-discipline and an awareness of the consequences. Refuse to put anything in front of your eyes, body, or heart that would compromise your faithfulness.

3. Humility. We all have weaknesses and relationships always reveal these faults quicker than anything else on earth. An essential building block of a healthy marriage is the ability to admit that you are not perfect, that you will make mistakes, and that you will need forgiveness. Holding an attitude of superiority over your partner will bring about resentment and will prevent your relationship from moving forward. If you struggle in this area, grab a pencil and quickly write down three things that your partner does better than you – that simple exercise should help you stay humble. Repeat as often as necessary.

4. Patience/Forgiveness. Because no one is perfect (see #3), patience and forgiveness will always be required in a marriage relationship. Successful marriage partners learn to show unending patience and forgiveness to their partner. They humbly admit their own faults and do not expect perfection from their partner. They do not bring up past errors in an effort to hold their partner hostage. And they do not seek to make amends or get revenge when mistakes occur. If you are holding onto a past hurt from your partner, forgive him or her. It will set your heart and relationship free.

5. Time. Relationships don’t work without time investment. Never have, never will. Any successful relationship requires intentional, quality time together. And quality time rarely happens when quantity time is absent. The relationship with your spouse should be the most intimate and deep relationship you have. Therefore, it is going to require more time than any other relationship. If possible, set aside time each day for your spouse. And a date-night once in awhile wouldn’t hurt either.

6. Honesty and Trust. Honesty and trust become the foundation for everything healthy in a marriage. But unlike most of the other essentials on this list, trust takes time. You can become selfless, committed, or patient in a moment, but trust always takes time. Trust is only built after weeks, months, and years of being who you say you are and doing what you say you’ll do. It takes time, so start now… and if you need to rebuild trust in your relationship, you’ll need to work even harder.

7. Communication. Successful marriage partners communicate as much as possible. They certainly discuss kids’ schedules, grocery lists, and utility bills. But they don’t stop there. They also communicate hopes, dreams, fears, and anxieties. They don’t just discuss the changes that are taking place in the kid’s life, they also discuss the changes that are taking place in their own hearts and souls. This essential key cannot be overlooked because honest, forthright communication becomes the foundation for so many other things on this list: commitment, patience, and trust… just to name a few.

8. Selflessness. Although it will never show up on any survey, more marriages are broken up by selfishness than any other reason. Surveys blame it on finances, lack of commitment, infidelity, or incompatibility, but the root cause for most of these reasons is selfishness. A selfish person is committed only to himself or herself, shows little patience, and never learns how to be a successful spouse. Give your hopes, dreams, and life to your partner. And begin to live life together.

This is a simple call to value our marriages, treat them with great care, and invest into them daily. Accomplishing the items listed above will always require nearly every bit of yourself… but it so worth it. After all, a successful marriage is far more valuable than most of temporal things we chase after with our lives. And will always last longer.

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